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Tonight a new friend to our family asked me what I thought of her going to prom with another friend. Normally this would be an, oh wow hope you both have a good time, sort of question.
Here's the kicker. The boy is just barely 17 years old, she is 46 years old and the ink isn't even dry on her papers from her very nasty divorce being done in California. The ex husband is a real jerk from what I have heard. This woman has a daughter who is the same age as this boy, that is living with her ex until she finishes school. I can only imagine what she might think about her mom doing this.
I honestly was so stunned by the question I didn't know quite how to respond. Part of me wanted to scream, good God what heck are you thinking, to both of them. I honestly felt sick and disgusted at the very idea. What gets me even more is not only does this boy's mom approve, but the school actually approved this woman as the boy's date (bear in mind I don't live in California anymore)! I was very shocked to hear that. I honestly do not think this is a healthy relationship for either one of them. In fact this brings both parties into a whole new light that makes me wonder if I would not rather just begin distancing myself from both of them. This kid was only recently placed back into his mom's care from foster care so I know that child welfare must still be keeping an eye on the situation. I sure hope so. Personally if I worked for that system I would probably yank him right back out of his mom's care because I do not feel she is using good judgement in allowing this relationship.

Hi Kathy, It was hard for me to tell, but if your new friend is the 17 year old there is a problem here. Underage and all that. But If you like this family I wouldn't distance yourself from them. Wait and see what becomes of it.

If it was my kid tho I'd say H@ll NO! And the school approving it, bizarre.

This is one of those situations that is out of control before it's out the gate, but if you can still be a friend that would be helpful when the cr@p hits the fan.

Does that help?

maybenotdumBcommenT wrote:

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Hi Kathy, It was hard for me to tell, but if your new friend is the 17 year old there is a problem here. Underage and all that. But If you like this family I wouldn't distance yourself from them. Wait and see what becomes of it.

If it was my kid tho I'd say H@ll NO! And the school approving it, bizarre.

This is one of those situations that is out of control before it's out the gate, but if you can still be a friend that would be helpful when the cr@p hits the fan.

Does that help?

I agree with Maybenotdumbcomment on this Kathy. Be there to support the fall out...You didn't come out and say it, but is the 17 yr old DATING the 40+? Or is the 40+ just going as a chaperone because the 17 yr old doesn't have a date? Either way, the school should be reprimanded for allowing this to occur and the parents should be talked to (maybe by you since you have the relationship with them?). This can't be good and come on, this is the real world, not the celebrity one where this type of thing is "ok". Good luck to you!

My family met this woman through a family member's job. There was some common ground so a bit of a friendship developed. One of my kids was introduced to the boy because of them having a lot of interests in common. He seems to be a nice kid who has had some hard knocks in life. The woman has too. This is not a case of her being an adult chaperone but rather his date and I fear she is reading much more into the original intention here or at least what I think was the original intention. She asked me what I thought during a party with a room full of people. I was stunned and didn't want to make a scene so I went the route of saying I could not imagine the school approving it and so fourth. I tried to make it clear I didn't approve without being mean or rude about it. I would have liked to just slap her. Being a mom if this were my 17 year old she would get my size 10s in her backside. I honestly think the whole idea was hers. It is disgusting.
My feeling is this nutty woman is off her rocker because of her divorce and needs a good shrink. I also think the young man doesn't feel comfortable with the girls at his school for some reason. He is a bit akward and goofy for his age. He's also a big (tall, not fat) guy who looks older than his years. Not the kind of guy many young girls go for. I feel like he needs a responsible adult lending a voice of reason to the situation to protect him, but really ultimately both of them from making a very serious mistake that could prove very costly. I fear if this continues much longer he could wind up being removed from his mom's custody again. I have not had a chance to talk with his mom about this and I barely know her. I sure want to talk to her about it. I get the feeling I was being told she was okay with something she may not be fully aware of. I honestly have felt physically sick all day about this. I am just that disgusted. This woman is just a little younger than me and looks older. I am really just sick about this and the mom in me feels a need to protect this boy.

Tell the boys Mom immediately.

Tell the boys Mom immediately.